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"I want a room  full of video games and my very own TV," he says.<br /> <br /> One friend told me that what the child was demanding was somewhat  outdated. "The 'in' things now are iPhones and iPads," she said. "No  more video games and TV."<br /> <br /> But then, she knew what was "in". And she does give her children some of  these "in" things - in moderation, she says, or as a reward for good  academic performance. She says she never gives way when her children  demand things from her without having earned them in some way.<br /> <br /> I can understand that parents today who grew up poor are more than  willing to give their children the luxuries that they themselves did not  have. If they do so carefully, I don't think they will cause their  children much harm.<br /> <br /> What I worry about is when a boy who demands a room full of video games  and his own TV set gets what he wants without having to earn them. His  parents may be loving in acceding to his demands, but they obviously  don't know how to guide him. If he gets all that he wants, he will think  there is no limit to what he deserves - a most dangerous idea that will  not help him when he grows up.<br /> <br /> How do young children become so materialistic? Granted, they usually  hanker after things. Their parents may think it is too early to teach  them frugality, but it is never too early to teach children that  kindness to others and helping those who need help is more important  than getting a new toy.<br /> <br /> By the time children get to secondary school, peer pressure can lead  them astray. That is why it is important to instil values, a sense of  right and wrong, from an early age.<br /> <br /> If a child does not learn that all his wishes cannot be instantly  granted, he will suffer in later life - beginning with national service  in the case of males. He will treat every obstacle to his pleasure as a  personal insult, and react to it angrily, perhaps even aggressively.  Such behaviour will obviously not be welcomed in the military.<br /> <br /> Those of us "older folk" who interact with adults below the age of 30  today have often found them less hard-working, less driven and more  demanding of what they think is rightly theirs than we were at their  age. I see this among some of the junior doctors, and the senior nurses  see it among the junior nurses.<br /> <br /> Perhaps every generation tends to think less of the one that comes next.  Certainly, I recall my parents' generation saying similar things about  mine. Still, the perception that many young adults of today are  self-centred or narcissistic is shared by many older adults. I think it  is an accurate assessment.<br /> <br /><strong> I have no children, but I will still be around when the spoilt children  of today grow up to be spoilt adults of tomorrow. Will they willingly  help support their parents and grandparents, the people who worked long  and hard to bring Singapore from Third World to First? For that reason  alone if nothing else, I hope parents and schools today will nurture  less self-centred and more altruistic instincts among the young.</strong><br /> <br /> The advertisement I saw sold the idea that achieving a certain  socio-economic status gives families the ability to give their children  whatever they want - "a room full of video games and my very own TV". I  disagree with that point of view.<br /> <br /><strong> We can be happy as long as we are moderate and contented with the simple  things in life and do not hanker after luxuries. If our goal in life is  to accumulate material pleasures, then we will forever try to earn more  money, and there would be no limit to how much we want.</strong><br /> <br /> A recent OCBC survey suggested that Singaporeans are becoming less  materialistic. Seventy per cent of those polled said happy families were  more important to them than pursuing financial gain. Less than 12 per  cent and 4 per cent, respectively, picked owning a luxury car and a  country club membership as worthy life goals.<br /> <br /> If the survey's findings are accurate, perhaps advertisers should stop  selling greed. I doubt, though, that day will come any time soon.</p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-29984907.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>When tuition was optional</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 26 Sep 2012 08:52:41 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/9/26/when-tuition-was-optional-2.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:29352891</guid><description><![CDATA[<div class="fauxcolumn-center-outer fauxcolumn-outer">
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<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><strong><span style="color: orange; font-size: large;">Something's not right when kids today must have tuition for what is taught in school</span></strong></span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><strong><span style="color: orange; font-size: large;"><br /></span></strong></span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">By Lee Wei Ling, </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;"></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Source: The Sunday Times, 23 Sep 2012</span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">A  topic that has been debated heatedly recently is whether tuition is  good or even necessary for school children. I will relate my own  experience with tuition before discussing its pros and cons.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">My  two brothers and I began our school life at Nanyang Kindergarten before  moving on to Nanyang Primary. We all had Chinese tuition from very  early in life, even before we entered primary school.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Our  parents believed languages were best learnt young, when the brain is  most plastic. We had plenty of time to play in childhood, but we were  given a strong grounding in languages.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I  vaguely recall my brother Hsien Loong - who is now Prime Minister - had  an old man we called "teacher Shung" even after he started primary  school. His task was to give Hsien Loong's Mandarin an extra polish.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">All  three of us had Malay tuition three times a week, an hour each session,  in primary school. This was because our school did not teach Malay and  our parents wanted us to be conversant and literate in Malay. Hsien  Loong's Malay remains excellent.</span></span><br /> <a name="more"></a></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I took Malay and English as my  second languages in my Chinese Secondary 4 school leaving examination. I  received distinctions in both.</span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">But  by Sec 4, I was getting nervous as to how I would cope in the Chinese  language examination. So my parents found me a Chinese teacher. She did  not go over the syllabus with me. Instead, we read Dream Of The Red  Chamber in its classical form. I didn't enjoy the story.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">She  also encouraged me to write articles and submit them for publication in  the Chinese newspapers. She would correct my draft before I submitted  them. Quite a few were published, and I was paid $10 for each article.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">All  this work paid off for I obtained distinctions in Chinese as a first  language in the Chinese school leaving examination as well as for  Chinese as a second language in the Cambridge School Certificate  Examination.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I  went to an English-medium school, Raffles Institution (RI), for  pre-university as I wanted to be a doctor. If I had stayed on at  Nanyang, I would have been taught science subjects in Mandarin, though  the textbooks were in English. That made no sense, so I switched to RI.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">But  to this day I am grateful I spent the first decade of my school life in  a Chinese-medium school. I am sure my brothers feel the same way.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Throughout  our school years, when someone from the BBC was available, my parents  would arrange an informal tutorial for us. The tutor I remember best is a  Mrs Dinnes, a motherly Scottish woman who spoke English with a slight  and pleasant Scottish burr. We would talk about or read aloud from  novels like The Hobbit.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">When  she left Singapore, my father arranged for the daughter of the then  British High Commissioner to tutor me. He did not want his children  speaking Singlish.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">With  the High Commissioner's daughter, I either had a free-flowing  conversation or we would read something by Shakespeare. I never enjoyed  Shakespeare, and still don't. But, I suppose, the effort of reading him  helped.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">From  my own experience, I think tuition is sometimes helpful but is not  really necessary. Self-reliance is the best approach and it is  self-reliance that will get us through adult life.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;">My  brothers and I had tuition in areas that were not covered in school -  especially languages. It was not to repeat or revise what had been  taught at school.</div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I  don't remember any of my teachers saying: "Why don't your parents get  you a tutor?" Things have changed since then, for it is common now for  teachers to urge their pupils to get tuition.</span></span></div>
<p><span style="font-family: inherit;">&nbsp;</span></p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I'm  sure tuition can be helpful for academically weaker children. But the  purpose of tuition should be to help them understand what they could not  understand in class, not to go over the 10-year series of examination  papers or to repeat all that was taught in school. Why go to school  again after school?</span></span></div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Despite  my tuition in languages, I had plenty of time to play as a child.  Indeed, I played rounders almost every evening. I would climb trees and  crawl through drains. In secondary school, I took up running seriously. I  represented my school in swimming, earned a black belt in karate and  was active in the army cadet corps.</span></span></div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">School  was always both interesting and challenging. How much you get out of  school depends on how much effort you put into it. I had a great time in  school.</span></span></div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">In  the 1960s, tuition was optional and most of us coped without tuition.  Now it seems, almost all school children get some form of tuition or  other.</span></span></div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Are parents today more kiasu than parents of my generation? Is the curriculum today too heavy for average students to cope with?</span></span></div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">It  seems to me something is clearly not right when most children have to  get tuition, and the tutor covers what is in the school syllabus.</span></span></div>
<p>&nbsp;</p>
<div style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I  hope the Ministry of Education can put its finger on the problem and  fix it soon. Childhood should not be drowned in a sea of tuition.</span></span></div>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-29352891.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>The long and short of rules</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 03 Sep 2012 07:37:23 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/9/3/the-long-and-short-of-rules.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:27196682</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>"Ryan's mother's reaction to the teacher cutting her son's hair was close to hysterical. How do we bring up our children with the right values .... How will Ryan cope when he does his national service? Surely, he cannot run to his mother for protection if he breaches any rules in NS."</p>
<p><span class="full-image-block ssNonEditable"><span><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/52865067@N03/7919831984/"><img src="http://farm9.staticflickr.com/8170/7919831984_fd00ae8198_z.jpg?__SQUARESPACE_CACHEVERSION=1346658364056" alt="" /></a></span><span class="thumbnail-caption" style="width: 565px;">Source: The Sunday Times  2 Sep 2012</span></span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-27196682.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Why I'm Against the Olympics</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 15 Aug 2012 00:00:07 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/8/15/why-im-against-the-olympics.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:23209820</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Source: Straits Times&nbsp;| August 14, 2012<br /><span class="caption"><strong></strong></span></p>
<p><span class="caption"><strong>Lee Wei Ling&nbsp;</strong></span></p>
<p>The Olympic Games are the most prestigious international sports  competition, with thousands of athletes from over 200 nations taking  part.<br /><br />The ancient Olympic Games were held in Olympia, Greece from  the 8th century BC to the 4th century AD. The modern Olympics, founded  by Baron Pierre de Coubertin, started in 1896 in Greece. The motto of  the Olympic Games is "Citius, Altius, Fortius," which is Latin for  "Faster, Higher, Stronger."<br /><br />There is no specific mention of who  or what is being used for comparison. Is it one's personal best, that  is, faster, higher and stronger than one's previous performance? If so,  then as long as each athlete does his or her best in the competition, it  is no shame not to win.<br /><br />But the reality is that all athletes who  participate in the Olympics, who are of world-class standard, want to  win and are very disappointed when they don't. Other athletes who are  not up to world standard participate for the experience and take pride  in having made it to the Games even if they get no prizes.<br /><br />Records of the performance of modern Olympic athletes show that "faster, higher, stronger" is indeed taking place over time.<br /><br />Whether  this is due to better nutrition and health, better training techniques  or better equipment, or due to use of performance enhancing drugs that  cannot be detected by current methods, is difficult to ascertain.<br /><br />Another  effect the Games try to achieve is international friendship and peace.  The Ancient Olympics were a series of competitions between  representatives of several city-states of ancient Greece.<br /><br />All  conflicts among the participating city states were postponed until the  Games ended. The modern Olympics' symbol is made up of five interlocking  rings, colored blue, yellow, black, green and red on a white  background. The colors of the rings plus the white background stand for  those colors that appear on all national flags of countries that compete  in the Games. Hence I presume Baron Pierre de Coubertin hoped the  Olympics would encourage world peace and international goodwill.<br /><br />But  when it comes to fostering international friendship &mdash; except for  personal friendship forged at the Games &mdash; the Olympics have certainly  not helped world peace. Instead, it gives terrorists an opportunity to  wreak havoc, and kill or injure participants and audience. During the  1972 Olympics in Munich, members of the Israeli Olympic team were taken  hostage and eventually killed by the Palestinian group Black September.<br /><br />Little  wonder then that strict security cover was provided for this year's  Olympics, with 1,200 extra personnel &mdash; from the British army, navy and  Royal Air Force &mdash; drafted in because of fears that the private security  contractor's handling of the &pound;284 million ($445 million) contract would  not be up to standard.<br /><br />In 1985, The Olympic Program (TOP) was  established to create an Olympic brand. Membership of the TOP is both  exclusive and expensive. Fees cost $50 million for a four-year  membership. TOP members receive exclusive global advertising rights for  their product category, and use of the Olympic symbol, the interlocking  rings, in their publications and advertisements. <br /><br />The growing  importance of the mass media created the issue of corporate sponsorship  and commercialization of the event, which has grown to the point where  nearly every nation is represented. Such growth has created many  challenges including boycotts, doping, bribery and terrorism.<br /><br /><strong>I  am personally against the Olympics because of the huge sums of money  spent, with little or no concrete improvement to human welfare.</strong><br /><strong><br />Perhaps  modern societies demand circuses, and are willing to pay a high price  for what is considered the most prestigious circus.<br /></strong><br /><strong>But even  people who do not get to witness the circus are paying without being  aware of it. They pay through public funding for the athletes, and for  the cost of hosting an Olympic Games.</strong><br /><br />Public funding, of course,  comes from taxes. Over the last 50 years, among the most expensive Games  have been London 2012 ($14.8 billion) and Barcelona 1992 ($11.4  billion).<br /><br />The Chinese authorities have not released data for the  2008 Beijing Olympics, but I suspect the opportunity cost of the funds  spent would be much higher than the other countries, given China's per  capita gross domestic product. In fact, cost overrun, averaging 180  percent, is a persistent problem for all Olympic Games.<br /><br />Dr James  Conner, a sports researcher at the University of New South Wales in  Canberra, calculated the cost of a gold medal for Australia. The  taxpayers paid about A$49 million ($52 million) for each gold medal.  This sum does not even take into account the money spent at the state  level, sponsorship dollars and expenditure of national sporting  organizations.<br /><br />What cannot be calculated is the human cost of  hours put into training by the athletes who are usually of school or  university age. Quite a few would have the option of their adult career  limited as they did not get a chance to obtain a good education.<br /><br />What  does Singapore get out of sending athletes to the Olympic Games? Some  may consider national pride as one gain, if our athletes win medals.<br /><strong><br />There  are two rebuttals to this answer. First, just because we feel proud  that a Singaporean has won any Olympic medal does not make us more  patriotic and more willing to fight to defend Singapore if we are  attacked.</strong><br /><br />Second, our medals so far have been from table tennis.  The Times of India did an interesting analysis on ethnicity of table  tennis players at the London Olympics. <strong>Of the 173 table tennis players,  55 are of Chinese descent, and 45 were born in China. From Lin Gui of  Brazil to Ariel Hsing of the United States, Xia Lian Ni of Luxembourg to  Bora Vang of Turkey, the Chinese are draped in the colors of 23  different countries. The entire Australian women's team consists of  players born in China. </strong><em>[Askmelah's note: what is left unsaid is that we fared worse than Australia, the entire Womens and Men's teams from Singapore are all imported from China!!!]</em><br /><br />In my humble opinion, the significant sums  of public money Singapore spends on training athletes for the Olympics  and other international games would be put to better use to encourage  and teach our population how to exercise for health. Ironically, when  exercise is carried to the extreme &mdash; as sometimes happens with national  athletes &mdash; the result is frequent injury, which is contra-productive to  health.<br /><br /><em>The writer is director of the National Neuroscience Institute.</em></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-23209820.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Turning dreams into reality</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 12 May 2012 08:50:02 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/5/12/turning-dreams-into-reality.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:16228107</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><span class="content_text">Source: The Sunay Times&nbsp;&nbsp; </span><span style="color: #222222; font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; orphans: 2; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.918); display: inline ! important; float: none;">4th October 2009</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">On Sept 16, we had dinner at The Compleat  Angler, a famous restaurant outside London, to celebrate my father's  86th birthday. He was last in the restaurant 47 years ago, when he was  in London to discuss the terms of Singapore's merger with Malaya. </span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">With him then were Dr Goh Keng Swee, Mr  Hon Sui Sen, Mr Sim Kee Boon and Mr Howe Yoon Chong. In the midst of the  acrimonious negotiations, the Singapore team had decided to de-stress  at The Compleat Angler.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">Forty-seven years later, the staff of  Singapore's High Commission in Britain sprung a surprise on my father,  who was visiting London last month. At the end of the dinner, while he  was in the washroom, a birthday cake was brought out, and we all sang  Happy Birthday when he returned to the table. Then we all sang his  favourite song, 'Que sera sera, what will be will be...'</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">I thought to myself: 'Wrong. What will be, need not be!'</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">Consider what happened after that dinner  at The Compleat Angler 47 years ago: The negotiations then led Singapore  to join Malaya in 1963. Two years later, in 1965, Singapore was  unceremoniously ejected from Malaysia. The outlook for this new  island-nation was bleak.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">But a small group of men was determined to  ensure our survival. They built a multiracial Singapore, with the best  interracial harmony in the world, and a meritocratic system in which all  are given an equal chance. They achieved peace, happiness and progress  for Singapore.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">My father had other specific dreams for  Singapore. In the 1970s, my mother's blind telephone operator could tell  when he was approaching the Singapore River, such was its stench. Dr  Albert Winsemius, who was Singapore's economic adviser and my father's  friend, challenged my father to clean up the river so fish could live in  it.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">In 1987, upon the successful completion of the 10-year project to clean up the river, Dr Winsemius did indeed catch a fish.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">My father then expanded upon his dreams  for the area: 'In 20 years, it is possible that there could be  breakthroughs in technology, both anti-pollution and in filtration,' he  said. 'Then, we can dam up or put a barrage at the mouth of the  marina...and we will have a huge freshwater lake.'</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">The Marina Barrage is the fulfilment of  that vision. Its construction creates the world's first reservoir in the  heart of a city. The reservoir's catchment is the most densely  populated area of Singapore.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">The reservoir's water will be treated  using advanced membrane technology. This will ensure that the water is  safe for drinking and will also allow land and water-based activities to  be carried out within the catchment. The Barrage is also part of a  flood control scheme to alleviate the problem of flooding in low-lying  areas of the city.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">The Marina Barrage was designed as part of  the Public Utilities Board's ABC Waters Programme. This aims to  encourage Singaporeans to appreciate the value of clean water and to do  their part to keep our water clean.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">In the year since its opening by the Prime  Minister last October, the Marina Barrage has attracted more than  550,000 visitors. It has become a vantage point for people to view the  picturesque city while enjoying the sea breeze. My father visited the  area often during its development.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">While I saw raw earth and construction, he described to me his dreams of a beautiful Marina Bay.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">There will be two indoor gardens with  careful climate control so that exotic plants can be cultivated. When  the whole project is completed, there will be a beautiful water 'square'  like the Piazza in Venice, but with a boardwalk around its perimeter  that will pass the Gardens by the Bay. (Go to <a href="http://www.marina-bay.sg/marinabayvideo.html" target="_blank">www.marina-bay.sg/marinabayvideo.html</a> for a view of how the Bay will look like when fully developed.)</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">We also toured One Fullerton on a Sunday  this past August. There were interesting restaurants and cafes, crowded  with customers dining alfresco and enjoying the evening breeze and view.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">The Old Guard turned many dreams into  reality. Mr Lim Kim San, for instance, achieved in HDB what once seemed  unachievable - housing 80 per cent of Singaporeans in public housing.  And Dr Goh began the streaming of students to enable them to learn at  their own pace - a step which helped propel Singapore's education system  to the top ranks in the world.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">Dr Goh was also instrumental in building  from scratch a tough and smart military fighting machine - with the help  of some 100 so-called Mexicans, as the disguised Israeli military  officers were known.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">Successive defence ministers have made  refinements to what Dr Goh achieved, so Singapore now has a Third  Generation Singapore Armed Forces.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">In short, a group of determined men -  together with Singaporeans who had lived through tough times and were  willing to endure more hardship - succeeded in building a Singapore that  no one ever thought possible, least of all the Old Guard themselves.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">Margaret Mead was correct when she said:  'Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can  change the world; it is the only thing that ever has.'</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">But we must not rest on our laurels. We  must keep on striving to improve the quality of life of all  Singaporeans. What the future will bring will not always be what we  dreamt of. We must remain alert and resilient. Fortune favours only  those who grab the opportunities life offers. If the future has rough  patches, we should simply accept that as a fact of life, and continue to  make the best of things.</span></p>
<p><span class="content_text">My biggest worry is that our success to  date has allowed a generation to grow up without knowing hardship.  Whether they are willing to put in the hard work to turn their dreams  into reality, and how they respond when misfortune and disasters strike,  will determine Singapore's future.</span></p>
<p><strong><span class="content_text">The writer is director of the National Neuroscience Institute. </span></strong></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-16228107.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Scaling beyond life's limit</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 12 Mar 2012 17:22:32 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/3/13/scaling-beyond-lifes-limit.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:15401782</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Askmelah's Note: while I applaud Dr Lee's conscientiousness and righteousness and her genuity in wanting to help Jacqueline Woo, I shudder to think some powerful politicians or tycoons will be able to influence decision makers much like what is happening in other third world countries. Every tool has its two-sided uses, like the gun if use by cops, it may save lives, else it may become a killing machine. Had Dr Lee not the daughter of Lee Kuan Yew, I am not sure if the MGS principal will be quick to say "sorry, we have to go by the book. Otherwise it will be unfair other students who have better grades." Dr Lee has not revealed more in this article the decision making process, but the right thing for any school or any public funded organisations such as hospitals when encountered such requests, should get the approval of the Board of Directors or independent third parties (e.g. School Parents Volunteer Committee) to consider such request on a transparent basis rather than let the poor principal or CEO to shoulder all the pressure from a real or perceived powerful person. A lesser integrity person will be easy to say yes to such request. Of course no system is perfect, but more transparency will reduce such possibility by a great deal and genuine request be granted, just like in the case of Jacqueline Woo.</p>
<p>&nbsp;Souce: The Sunday Times&nbsp; 12 Mar 2012</p>
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<h1 class="post-title">Scaling beyond life&rsquo;s limits    &ndash; by Lee Wei Ling</h1>
<p><em>Source: The Sunday Times</em><em>&nbsp; Mar 11, 2012</em></p>
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<p><em>By Lee Wei Ling</em><strong><br /></strong></p>
<p><strong><br />Unable to walk, talk or write by hand, this determined A-level girl still scores three As</strong></p>
<p>I first saw Jacqueline Woo Pei Ling &ndash; or Jac as her family and friends call her &ndash; when she was three years old. Her walking was strange. All the doctors were puzzled, including the late Professor Wong Hock Boon, the father of paediatric medicine in Singapore.</p>
<p>Over the years, it became obvious that Jac suffered from abnormal and very strong involuntary movements. These became progressively worse, until eventually she could no longer walk, write or talk.</p>
<p>Her difficulty in speaking is due to her inability to voluntarily control the muscles involved, especially those controlling the vocal cords. The muscles around her trunk have also been affected and, as a result, her body is twisted almost like a pretzel.</p>
<p>Jac&rsquo;s parents have dedicated their lives to caring for her. When she was in primary school, her mother would go with her to school and stay throughout the school day so as to be able to wheel her around in her wheelchair.</p>
<p>Before she took her Primary School Leaving Examination (PSLE), Jac told me that she hoped to do well enough to be admitted to Methodist Girls School (MGS). But as it turned out, her score was not quite good enough. If she had been from MGS Primary, she would have got into MGS Secondary, but the bar was set higher for those who came from other primary schools.</p>
<p>I happened to know the principal of MGS, my mother&rsquo;s old school, and so called her to explain Jac&rsquo;s physical handicap as well as her determination and intelligence. MGS would be good for Jac, and Jac would be good for MGS, I pleaded. After considering the case carefully, the principal decided MGS should indeed take a chance on Jac.</p>
<p>The principal never regretted her decision, for Jac flourished in the school. Socially, she found a community who took her into their hearts. Academically, she did very well, with her O-level results gaining her admission to Anglo-Chinese Junior College (ACJC) with no difficulty.</p>
<p>I am very grateful to the students and staff at both MGS and ACJC for befriending Jac and taking care of her. Her school friends took turns pushing her around in her wheelchair and helping her in the toilet. This speaks well of their compassion and gives one confidence that Singapore&rsquo;s young will be conscious of their responsibilities to society as a whole.</p>
<p>Jac has always studied hard. She invariably completes her assignments on time and keeps up with her assigned readings. She e-mails or texts her teachers if she has questions, for she can hardly speak to them. She would sacrifice her sleep when necessary to complete her homework or study for tests and exams.</p>
<p>This determination and diligence always stood her in good stead, most recently in the A-level exams. Jac scored three As &ndash; for history, literature and Chinese, three subjects notoriously difficult to ace.</p>
<p>These are excellent results by any measure &ndash; and remarkable if one took into account her disability, which among other things, makes typing a slow and tedious process.</p>
<p>Jac is unable to write by hand and so has to type her answers on a laptop. As she is unable to sit up, she has to do this lying on her stomach, on a couch, with her upper body propped up on her elbows so she can type. Her typing is further impeded by the fact that her left hand is appreciably weaker than her right.</p>
<p>Because she is so severely handicapped, Jac was granted extra time in the examinations &ndash; 75 per cent more time for all subjects except mathematics, for which she was granted 100 per cent extra time. So she was given five hours and 15 minutes to complete each of her humanities papers, compared with normal students who had three hours, and six hours for mathematics.</p>
<p>On one day, she had two papers &ndash; mathematics and history. That day, her examinations lasted a total of 11 hours and 15 minutes, with just an hour&rsquo;s break between the two papers.</p>
<p>She refused to take toilet breaks during any of her papers, though her mother waited outside the exam hall just in case.</p>
<p>Jac&rsquo;s A-level results are good enough to win her a place in any Singapore university, but I am not sure where she will go.</p>
<p>The National University of Singapore, especially its Faculty of Arts and Social Sciences, is full of hills and staircases, and I don&rsquo;t know if Jac will be able to navigate her way around the campus easily. Nanyang Technological University is a very long way from her home, and she would not be able to cope on her own if she had to stay in a hostel. Singapore Management University emphasises participation, and Jac cannot take part in discussions because she can hardly speak.</p>
<p>I am certain Jac will find a suitable university &ndash; and that each will try its best to accommodate her presence, as did MGS and ACJC. But these considerations underline how Jac, unlike normal students, cannot take anything for granted. Every step for her is a hurdle, every trip a perilous expedition.</p>
<p>Jac has been under my care for many years now, but I cannot cure her. All I can do is prescribe muscle relaxants to reduce the pain her powerful involuntary movements cause her. Brain surgery has a 50 per cent chance of improving her physical condition, but that means there is a 50 per cent chance the operation will not do her any good.</p>
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<p>Still, I am cautiously optimistic about her future. She has already shown that she has a strong will to succeed despite her physical handicap. Her determination and resilience will help her overcome many obstacles. In addition, medical science is advancing rapidly, and a cure for her condition may be possible in the near future.</p>
<p>But whatever happens, Jac cannot and will not be disheartened. Life goes on, and she will be prepared to face whatever life deals her, just as all of us must.</p>
<p>Jac is the purest expression I know of a spirit that always triumphs over adversity, even the most dire. I am her doctor and she&rsquo;s my patient, but I always feel humbled in her presence.</p>
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</div>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-15401782.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Close friends from all walks of life</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2012 09:31:19 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/2/14/close-friends-from-all-walks-of-life.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:15028329</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><em>Vital traits I look for in friends are empathy and compassion, not social status or wealth<br /></em> <br /> By Lee Wei Ling <br /> <br /> <br /> I am a member of a family that is perceived by many Singaporeans to be  the most influential on this tiny island. As a result, I am always a  little apprehensive when I first get to know someone new.<br /> <br /> Those who know my family background may hesitate to show their true  selves to me. Hence, I usually make an extra effort to assess each new  person I have to interact with. My gut feeling or sixth sense of the  truth behind the facade has often proven accurate, though I never act on  gut feelings alone.<br /> <br /> I observe the person's behaviour to determine if my sixth sense is right  or wrong. If I know of others who are acquainted with this person, I  ask their opinions of him. <br /> <br /> I have friends in different strata of society and, often, my friends are  people whom others among my acquaintances would not suspect me to be  associated with. If a trusted friend gave me feedback about a particular  person that does not coincide with my own perceptions, then I become  sceptical of my own gut instincts.<br /> <br /> I categorise people I know into enemies, acquaintances, friends, close  friends and comrades. This is admittedly a rough and perhaps simplistic  way of classifying people, but it serves my purpose.<br /> <br /> People whom I consider to be evil, I classify as enemies, though they  may not have crossed swords with me personally. If they have coerced,  bullied or harmed someone innocent, I will try to right the wrong  whether or not the victim is a personal friend of mine. Perhaps that is  why some people think I am aggressive.<br /> <br /> Acquaintances are people whom I know but have little feelings for  because I do not know them well enough. I am polite to them, though  occasionally I forget and am brusque. My friends understand and take no  offence, but those who don't know me may well think I am rude or  arrogant. I'm slowly changing in this respect but have to admit I often  forget myself.<br /> <br /> Friends are people I know fairly well and who I feel are good. Because I  don't know them well enough, or don't have much interaction with them,  they are not elevated to the category of 'close friends'.<br /> <br /> Close friends are people whom I know well, and usually have considerable  interactions with. They don't necessarily share the same values as I  do.<br /> <br /> An example is a classmate from medical school who is almost the exact  opposite of me. She is feminine, good-looking and cares about her  appearance. She is always elegantly attired, and is willing to spend a  fair amount of money on her clothes and accessories. But she also cares  deeply about people and is a competent and dedicated general  practitioner. Empathy and compassion are important traits I look for  among close friends, and on that score she passes with flying colours.<br /> <br /> Social status or wealth is not a criterion I use to classify anyone as a  close friend. For instance, my personal assistant (PA) is also a close  friend of mine, though our social backgrounds are quite different.<br /> <br /> There is a Chinese proverb that describes two contrasting kinds of  friendship: Jun zi zhi jiao dan ru shui, xiao ren zhi jiao gan ruo li.<br /> <br /> It means: 'The relationship between two honourable persons (jun zi) is  as understated as water (dan ruo shui). The relationship between two  petty persons (xiao ren) is as cloying as sweet wine (gan ruo li).'<br /> <br /> Between my close friends and me there is no account book of favours  given or received. When help is needed, we render help even without  being asked.<br /> <br /> My close friends come from all walks of society, and I treat them all as  equals regardless of how society categorises them. My 20-odd close  friends thus include doctors, civil servants who work or have worked for  my father, friends I made when I was undergoing rehabilitation at the  Singapore Sports Council, my PA and my parents' security officers.<br /> <br /> Comrades are people who share my aspirations. While most of my comrades  are also my close friends, not all my close friends are my comrades.<br /> <br /> Most of my colleagues at the National Neuroscience Institute are my  comrades. Our common aspiration is to do our best by each and every  patient regardless of their ability to pay. Medicine among my comrades  is a calling first - and a business a distant second.<br /> <br /> The closest friendship I have ever observed is that between my father  and my late mother. Since she passed away in October 2010, my father has  carried on stoically, but I can almost always sense the sadness in him.<br /> <br /> Finally, I would like to quote a Tamil poem that a close friend (and  comrade) once taught me. It describes what happens to a person when he  dies:<br /> <br /> 'My wife accompanies me to the main door. My friends go with me to the  main street. My children accompany me to the cemetery. Who goes with me  to the end?'<br /> <br /> I guess the reason I remember this poem so well is that I do not even  have a spouse or child to accompany me even part of the way. Of course,  to an atheist, there is nothing beyond the end. Once I die, I no longer  exist. I hope my family and friends will not feel sad when I depart  permanently, though of course I do when any of my own close friends or  comrades depart.<br /> <br /> Water is the element of my close relationships and the ripples remain long after my close friends have gone.</p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-15028329.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Confessions of an embarrassed omnivore</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:31:14 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/2/9/confessions-of-an-embarrassed-omnivore.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:14941097</guid><description><![CDATA[<p>Source: The Sunday Times&nbsp; 29 Jan 2012</p>
<p>Written by Lee Wei Ling</p>
<p>A few months ago, a colleague of mine  urged me to attend an event at Speakers&rsquo; Corner to protest against the  cruelty of exhibiting dolphins at Resorts World Sentosa.</p>
<p>I have read extensively about dolphins in captivity, and have no  doubt that that is cruel. But dolphins are also &lsquo;celebrity&rsquo; animals. At  every moment of the day, there are countless &lsquo;non-celebrity&rsquo; animals  around the world being subjected to cruel treatment without anybody  protesting. What makes dolphins more worthy of our sympathy than cows,  sheep or chickens (animals we eat) or crocodiles and minks (animals we  skin)?</p>
<p>In 1995, when I was learning to use MRI (magnetic resonance imaging)  to study which part of our brain controls which part of our body, and  how we generate thoughts, I visited Beth Israel Hospital in Boston.  There, I met a psychologist who was a Jew - and, to my surprise, a  vegetarian as well.</p>
<p>At meals, he avoided beef, chicken, pork and fish, but strangely  enough, not scallops. I knew observant Jews did not eat scallops, for  they were not considered kosher. I asked him why, though he was a  vegetarian, he ate scallops. He did not give me a satisfactory answer.</p>
<p>So I named a number of animals, asking him in turn what he would eat  and what he would not. It was soon obvious that he would eat animals he  had no empathy for. It is certainly difficult to feel empathy for  scallops, so he had no qualms eating them.</p>
<p>A free-living scallop, though, swims by rapidly opening and closing  its shell - a method of locomotion that is also a defensive technique,  protecting it from threatening predators. That suggests scallops are  capable of feeling distress. And yet the Jewish psychologist felt no  empathy for them. Unlike dolphins, scallops are not cute.</p>
<p>Most Singaporeans eat meat. But how many among us are aware of the  cruel conditions in which the animals destined for our consumption are  reared or slaughtered?</p>
<p>Hens reared for their eggs are usually kept in very cramped battery  cages and are beak trimmed, all of which makes their life an awful  misery.</p>
<p>There are rules as to how animals are to be slaughtered in all First  World countries. The aim is to kill the animal in such a way as to cause  minimal suffering. This is often done by electrical stunning, after  which the animal is bled. But stunning does not always eliminate  suffering for the animal.</p>
<p>To begin with, the stunning may not have been properly performed, in  which case the animal would still feel pain as it is cut up.</p>
<p>Also, the other animals waiting to be slaughtered become terrified,  for they can smell the &lsquo;fear pheromone&rsquo; secreted by the agitated and  frightened animals as they are killed.</p>
<p>Interestingly, when it comes to laboratory animals like rodents, it  is mandatory to euthanise them in separate rooms so as to minimise the  distress other animals nearby might feel.</p>
<p>Many people protest against the cruelty laboratory animals are  subjected to in the interest of medical science. But don&rsquo;t the abattoir  and the meat trade inflict greater cruelty on animals?</p>
<p>In 2008-09, Resorts World Sentosa purchased 27 wild-caught dolphins from the Solomon Islands. In 2010, two of the dolphins died.</p>
<p>It is undoubtedly cruel to keep dolphins in captivity. But to return  captive dolphins to the wild, without first training them in survival  tactics, would expose them to dangers.</p>
<p>Dolphins kept in captivity for some time would no longer know how to  fend for themselves in the wild. They can be attacked by sharks, or  become entangled in the massive amount of rubbish that humans dump in  the ocean.</p>
<p>Now that the 25 dolphins at Resorts World Sentosa have been in  captivity for so long, releasing them into the wild would not be a good  idea. If the dolphins can bring Singapore tourist dollars, I am not  entirely sure we should release them.</p>
<p>Recently, sharks have also received much sympathy, with the  consumption of shark&rsquo;s fins in particular being condemned by some.  Animal welfare groups oppose finning on moral grounds and also because  it is a major cause of the rapid decline of the global shark population,  they argue. I object to finning because of the suffering experienced by  sharks whose fins have been removed.</p>
<p>I confess I might appear hypocritical; condemning cruelty to animals  and yet still eating meat. It is possible but difficult to have a  balanced diet as a vegan - which means not just omitting meat but also  all animal products, including eggs and milk, from one&rsquo;s diet.</p>
<p><strong>I have tried a diet free of meat and eggs, with milk and soya  products as my source of protein. I can manage such a diet for a few  days but I do not find it particularly palatable.</strong></p>
<p><strong>So I remain an embarrassed omnivore who tries to minimise unnecessary  suffering to animals where possible. And I dream of a future when we  can grow meat and even body organs in cell culture so that our dietary  as well as medical needs can be met without subjecting any sentient  organisms to pain.</strong></p><p></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-14941097.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Flood woes: A balancing act</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 18 Jan 2012 09:41:09 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/1/18/flood-woes-a-balancing-act.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:14631489</guid><description><![CDATA[<p><strong><em>[Askmelah's note: While I do have very high respect for Dr Lee, She is wrong this time round. With the benefit of hindsight, the Jul 2010 flood is not a "one in 20 or 30 (or 50?) year event", we have <a href="http://www.askmelah.com/whats-new/2011/6/12/flooding-in-singapore-ii.html">three floods </a>in Orchard Road in the space of less than 2 years. Can't blame her, engineering is not her area of expertise, neither is it the expertise of ex-PM. Sorry to see him having to <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CfMatpsj3K8&amp;feature=player_embedded">defend for the PUB engineers </a>which backfires on him. Flooding was acceptable in the 60s when we were still in the third world era, the situation is very different now with our per capita income surpasses many first world countries especially when you are <a href="http://www.askmelah.com/dirty-politics/2012/1/7/ministerial-pay-review-the-reactions.htm">paying the highest pay to both the Ministers and the Civil Servants</a>, you are expecting them to deliver rather than coming up with excuses.]</em></strong></p>
<p>Government decision to balance drainage with roads and other land uses makes sense<br />Lee Wei Ling</p>
<p>Source : <a href="http://www.straitstimes.com/Think/Story/STIStory_649768.html">The Sunday Times</a> 27 Mar 11;<br /><br />This  is already the end of March. The north-east monsoon should have ended.  Yet I was awakened by torrential rain at 6am on a recent morning.<br /><br />After  a few minutes, I decided to go back to sleep and chase my dream. This  was a technique I had developed myself. I found that if I could get back  into the dream that I had woken up from, I could fall asleep again.<br /><span class="fullpost"><br />So I mentally went over my dream and indeed fell asleep, and the dream continued.<br /><br />In  my dream - which consisted more of recollection of my actual past  rather than dreams - my bro-ther Hsien Yang and I were still pupils at  Nanyang Primary School. To get to school, we were driven along Bukit  Timah Road, which of course was next to the Bukit Timah canal.<br /><br />In  those days, the canal was much narrower than it is now, so whenever  there was heavy rain, Bukit Timah Road tended to get flooded. If the  heavy rain occurred at the same time as a high tide, flooding was  certain.<br /><br />Near Nanyang Primary in the 1960s were attap houses. The  boys from the kampung would wade through the dirty flood water and  offer to push stalled cars for a fee.<br /><br />Readers under 30 years old  would probably have never seen these attap houses for they stood on what  is now prime land. Property prices near Nanyang Primary have gone up  stupendously since the 1960s. Many ambitious parents move to be within  1km of Nanyang Primary to ensure that their children have a good chance  of getting into the school.<br /><br />Yang and I were in a car along Bukit  Timah Road trapped in the flood. Our older brother Hsien Loong was  attending Catholic High School and so was not around to chastise us.<br /><br />Our  car stalled because water had got into its engine. The canal had  overflowed and one could not tell where the canal ended and where the  road began.<br /><br />It is amazing how daring one was before fear robbed  us of the fun of childhood. Yang and I got out of the car, ignoring our  driver's protests and tried to push the car. But we were too small and  did not have enough strength to move the car. So, bashfully, we got back  into the car, wet and muddy. Then three big boys came along to push our  car in exchange for a fee.<br /><br />Then I woke up and peered out of my  window. It was too dark to see the rain, but the sound of heavy rain  confirmed I hadn't just dreamt about it.<br /><br />Now awake, I recalled  clearly those days when Singapore flooded often. After the car was  pushed to where the road was dry, the driver would open the bonnet, and  remove the five cables attached to the distributor cap and dry them all  with emery paper. I can remember this technical detail because the five  cables attached to the cap were nicknamed sotong, which means cuttlefish  in Malay.<br /><br />We would eventually get to school, but less than half the pupils would have made it. So we would be told to go home.<br /><br />Going  home promised more fun. We would fold paper boats and place them in the  drain which flowed away from our house. Now much older and a little  wiser, I wonder whether the paper boats would have added to the  obstructions in the drain further on.<br /><br />Last year, we had  exceptionally heavy rainfall over a very short period of time. Many  roads which had never flooded before flooded. Some houses and shops were  damaged. There was much complaining among those who were concerned  about the losses they incurred.<br /><br />My father Minister Mentor Lee Kuan Yew explained recently the Government's thinking on flood control:<br /><br />To  guard against a super-heavy rainfall that would occur once every 20 to  30 years, we would have to build more and bigger drains. But no amount  of engineering can prevent floods. Also more and bigger drains would  mean less space for roads. As it is, even the high cost of cars has not  dissuaded people from wanting cars.<br /><br />I don't always agree with the  Government, but in this case, I do: It is better to have drains capable  of coping with the usual rainfall, rather than invest in a system that  can cope with the giant floods that occur only once every 20 to 30  years.<br /><br />According to the PUB, there are currently 32 rivers and  more than 7,000km of drains and canals in Singapore. They are part of  PUB's flood management approach, which also involves:<br /><br />Providing adequate drainage ahead of new developments;<br /><br />Raising road and building levels, and getting building owners to implement flood protection measures; and<br /><br />Making continual drainage improvement in areas affected by floods.<br /><br />As  a result of investing some $2 billion over the past 30 years in an  extensive drainage system, our flood-prone areas have been significantly  reduced by 98 per cent - from over 3,000ha in the 1970s to 56ha today.  Singapore has achieved this despite increased urbanisation, which would  usually have resulted in more floods. The flash floods that still occur  tend to be localised affairs that subside within an hour.<br /><br />Every  decision comes with an opportunity cost. The wisest decision is one that  minimises this cost. The public needs to understand the Government's  logic. Unfortunately, grumbling is our favourite pastime.</span></p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-14631489.xml</wfw:commentRss></item><item><title>Comfortable with the face I've earned</title><dc:creator>Askmelah</dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:24:40 +0000</pubDate><link>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/2012/1/17/comfortable-with-the-face-ive-earned.html</link><guid isPermaLink="false">463344:5636086:14602363</guid><description><![CDATA[<div class="byline">
<p><strong><em>No purpose served in being attached to one's looks; instead, being able to let go helps ease suffering</em></strong></p>
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<div class="byline">Source: The Sunday Times&nbsp; Dec 4, 2011</div>
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<div class="byline">By                                                                                                                                                             Lee Wei Ling</div>
<p>I had had a busy week so I decided  to relax and scan the Lifestyle section of The Sunday Times. The  photograph of a man and a pretty woman holding a string to which many  mussels were attached caught my attention.</p>
<p>The man in the story,  a Mr Lim, aged 45, managed to earn a living growing mussels after some  trial and error. It was a hard life. Partly in jest, he told the  reporter: 'I have already lost my youth. When I started at 31, I was so  handsome but now I look old and I have lost at least 12kg.'</p>
<p>In the photograph, his face looks tanned and gaunt. He seems 20 years older than his pretty 32-year-old wife.</p>
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<p><strong>I have put on 20lb (9kg)  as instructed by my doctor. But my face is more angular and gaunt and I  have prominent eye bags. In the 2001 photograph, I could easily have  passed for a teenage boy. Now I look my age, or older than my age. </strong></p>
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<p>I have said in this column before  that I myself am aesthetically challenged, and I meant it in all  honesty. But there was a time when I looked reasonably attractive -  average, I would say. The past 10 years, however, have been somewhat  unkind to me, and my current appearance reflects the health difficulties  I have had.</p>
<p>Recently, I needed to get a new  passport photograph. When I compared the new photograph with the one I  took in 2001, I realised how much my face had aged.</p>
<p>I have put on 20lb (9kg) as  instructed by my doctor. But my face is more angular and gaunt and I  have prominent eye bags. In the 2001 photograph, I could easily have  passed for a teenage boy. Now I look my age, or older than my age. No  matter how short I cut my hair, I can no longer pass for a young  androgynous teenager or man.</p>
<p>Some readers may wonder why I  needed a new passport photograph to realise how much my face had changed  for the worse. The answer is simple. I rarely spend time looking at  myself in the mirror. My hair is short, so I comb it without looking at a  mirror.</p>
<p>Comparing the photograph of myself  aged 46 with a photograph of myself aged 56 - and verifying that the  'now' photograph was accurate by looking carefully at myself in a mirror  - I felt a little sad for a while. Then my common sense was back in  control.</p>
<p>Indeed, a few months ago, when I  wrote about my graduation at the age of 23, I showed the photograph of  myself in my graduation gown and mortar board to one of my friends. I  asked him: 'Can you recognise me now from that photograph?' He knew I  wanted a frank answer and replied: 'No.'</p>
<p>I knew my face had aged, but I did  not realise how much I had aged. Still, I have no right to complain.  That I am still alive and relatively healthy now is already a near  miracle. Furthermore, I don't depend on my looks to earn a living.</p>
<p>When I scrutinise myself  objectively in the mirror, I realise that the part of my face that has  changed the most are my eyes. They are slanted and slit, closely  resembling my father's eyes in his old age. The lower part of my face  looks angular and gaunt despite my weight gain, for most of my extra  weight consists of muscle.</p>
<p>Recently, at the World Orchid  Conference, two women separately asked me if I was Dr Lee. I asked the  first woman who questioned me how she had guessed, since no recent  photograph of me had appeared in the press. 'You look like your father,'  she said.</p>
<p>(Incidentally, I avoid photographs  of myself in the press not because I look old and unattractive. Rather,  it is because I want to preserve my privacy. I am the only member of my  family who can walk down Orchard Road and not be readily recognised -  which was why I was somewhat surprised I was recognised at the World  Orchid Conference.)</p>
<p>I thought of the Chinese phrase  nadechi, fangdexia, which means literally 'what you pick up, you should  also be able to let go without clinging to it'. In a previous article, I  had used this phrase in relation to an elegant glass ornament my mother  had given me, and which I had accidentally broken. But the phrase  applies not only to objects but also to fortune, fame, prestige,  success, appearance, youth and many other things or attributes to which  we are attached.</p>
<p>I have not yet developed the  ability to be totally detached from life's vicissitudes, but I have  learnt to remind myself that desire of and attachment to worldly things  bring suffering. I have thus become fairly successful in curbing some of  my attachments.</p>
<p>If I believed in reincarnation,  then I would feel that I had many more lives to struggle through before I  attained nirvana. But I don't believe in reincarnation, and I am  convinced that I am a transient on this planet.</p>
<p>This means that if I don't want to  suffer too much in this life, I must continually remind myself that  while I should aspire to help other humans, I must also be willing to be  detached when detachment is the only option.</p>
<p>I don't resent the misfortunes  that fate has brought me. I accept them as lessons in life that only  personal experience can teach. Indeed, I believe I am fortunate rather  than unfortunate to have learnt these lessons.</p>
<p>And one small lesson I have learnt  is that there is no purpose served in being attached to my face - or  what used to be my face. George Orwell once wrote that after the age of  50, we all have the face we deserve. I, for one, am quite comfortable  with the one I have earned.</p>]]></description><wfw:commentRss>http://www.askmelah.com/dr-lee-wei-ling/rss-comments-entry-14602363.xml</wfw:commentRss></item></channel></rss>